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We, collectively as human beings, seem to live in an artificially constructed system. As soon as we are born, our days start to be ‘numbered’. We are registered under a name and as having a date and a time of birth. The next entry into the system is when we start pre school. That is when all of our natural cycles end. We can’t sleep when we’re tired. We can’t eat when we’re hungry. We can’t say how we feel when we’re feeling it. We are expected to achieve certain levels of knowledge, in order to be allowed to move up a grade. We have to behave in a certain way, in order to be accepted and deemed as fitting in. We spend a certain number of years in primary school, then secondary school or college. Some go on to university before starting to work.

All of this is expected of us and to fulfil it at a certain time in our life. Otherwise, we ‘fall behind’, we ‘don’t fit in’, we become ‘a failure’ or an ‘outcast’, we are casted out of the norm. I hate labels, but in this case they might illustrate my point.

So, what happens to our feelings, needs and wishes as we grow up? What happens to our natural cycles of feeling happy and showing it, eating when feel hungry, going for a rest when feel tired?

Unless you can survive without making a living, you have to put your feelings and needs aside, and ignore them all until you have a moment for yourself.

Or, at least, that’s what I thought life has to be like for me.

What I’ve recently discovered is that I owe it to myself to re connect to my natural flow. I am not going to ignore how I feel or suppress my hunger or tiredness. It is a human right, in fact every living being’s right to BE THEMSELVES. We tend to our plants’ needs by giving them the right amount of water, sunlight and food, for them to thrive. We look after our pets by giving them the appropriate food, shelter, water, attention, and love, for them to have a happy life.

Therefore, we deserve what we give to everyone and everything else. No more, no less. Just to respect our body when it cannot take any more stress, or to take a moment when we need it, to have a snack when we’re hungry (if we can’t have a proper meal), to pamper ourselves every once in a while, to reach out to family and friends to tell them that we are thinking of them and that we love them.

Otherwise, life passes us by, going through it’s natural cycles of youth, adulthood and old age and we find ourselves looking back one day wondering what was the purpose of our existence.

To me, our purpose is to ‘serve’ our society by making a positive difference as well as tending to our own needs, or going with the flow. Because, if I’m not true to myself, if I’m not listening to my own mind, body and soul, it is just as if I don’t exist at all.

Peace and love to everyone,

Angela.